Anxiety

Anxiety

There are three facets of a personality around which the fabric of life drapes. Namely professional, emotional and physical. In our quest for self-mastery, we tend to work mostly on these parts. The true art of life is to balance them all while handling daily challenges that are sure to arise.  If any facet gets imbalanced, you and those surrounding you, will immediately notice it. In fact, the delicate balancing act among the three facets can also be evidenced in your environment.  Let’s understand what creates the imbalance in the first place. What are the primary reasons requiring a need for balance to match our desired growth?

If a random group of hard-working people are asked, ‘How many regularly feel the ‘fear’ of doing something new?’ one will find that such fear is relatively common. Let me put it another way, ‘When it was last time you did something for the first time?’ You might be surprised with the resulting paucity of affirmative responses. Remember, the question is not about what the group has been doing. Instead, the purpose behind asking these questions is to put the person and his or her feelings in an uncomfortable (but temporary) situation. In the end, it is the feelings of the unknown that cloud our thinking. But fortunately for us, uncertainty can also serve as the immediate trigger examining our emotions initially.

We often label these feelings as ‘Anxiety.’ And anxiety is a natural state of mind where a what we feel is what triggers fear in the first place. Some experts argue that it was fear during our human evolution that saved us from extinction at the hands of so many natural enemies.

So, one is left to ask: why anxiety in the present age is looked at as a negative experience?

No doubt, you have heard and read much about ‘stress’. Stress is what one feels when under inordinate pressure—whether physical or emotional, no matter the source. This is also the exactly the same stress you feel in a variety of situations—including when you don’t get what you need in your professional or personal live.  This resulting pressure is inevitably sparked whenever performance is continuously demanded over and above your available hours. It is the pressure that creates a work-life imbalance that seems to be so common in today’s society.

The bottom line is such a situation contributes to the failure to heal your body and mind. The same goes for ‘Anxiety in today’s context. You feel it when modern life inhibits healing our minds and bodies in a natural way due to the stress we experience on a day- to-day basis.

How can one address these feelings?  Is there any way to address fear, anxiety, and stress in a holistic manner? Or put in different words, how can I rid myself of this stress and overcome the accompanying anxiety?

This is often where coaching adds the most value—helping you to identify the early warning signs, and then teaching techniques to correctly identify and resolve the feeling we call anxiety.

So ‘anxiety’ is a product of significant imbalance in your professional, emotional and physical status. If, as I strongly believe, we are products of our own choices, then it your choice alone as to what thoughts and inclinations you follow. Afterall, choice empowers us to make decisions. And the decisions we make on a daily basis form the foundation of who we are and what we do. Remember, it was your choice to get up early in the morning and go out for a jog. Or, it could have been your choice to stay in bed for 30 more minutes. Your choice and is yours alone, and you benefit or are penalized according to how your thoughts guide your choices. Remember, it is well said that, it is the first choice you make in the morning that sets the stage for your entire day.  How you make these choices ultimately is a function of your mindset. If you have a good coach to help you focus on your life’s goals by fine-tuning your mindset correctly, it is highly likely that you will achieve those goals.

The proper balancing of your life is an act of self-justice (your mindset is the springboard for what you choose to do and not to do). Some might question how can you be certain that your choices and decisions are correct? My response is, I am not talking about right or wrong in these instances. Instead, a correct decision is a matter of position and circumstance. Here, the coach provides helpful guidance on what to choose, when to choose, and how to choose. Coaches are here to guide clients to choices that are balanced in nature and to help them further in their personal and individual goals to create a better life.

In conclusion, ‘anxiety’ is created by nature to help us stay alive. Anxiety can be your friend. A good coach will help you manage that anxiety to ensure the proper balance and make your life better in every sense.

New Year’s Resolutions!

New Year’s Resolutions!

2021 has officially begun, and most of us have made resolutions to achieve.  We have lots of things we want to change, and no better time then now, Right? Understanding the reasons behind resolutions is more important than making the actual list, and here is why.

Myth # 1:  You know exactly what you want to change. 

Reality: We should focus on the reasons why we are trying to change.

You think you will be happier when you lose 10 pounds. Why? Is it to fit into your old clothes from when you were younger? Is it to make yourself more attractive for your spouse or future potential partner? Setting a goal without understanding the purpose of the goal makes individuals less likely to accomplish the goal and more likely to feel dissatisfied, even when the goal is met. If the goal is to lose 10 pounds, and the reason is so you can feel more confident in yourself, will this weight loss actually result in more self-confidence? Self-confidence is about loving your body regardless of the size and shape. Maybe losing 10 pounds will help you feel more comfortable with your body; however, are there other aspects in your life that have caused you to lose confidence in yourself?  Maybe a broken relationship, feeling discontent with your job, or a battle with depression can also be contributing to your need for higher self-esteem. Start with what you want to feel, then set goals that help obtain those positive desired feelings or eliminate the negative ones.

Myth # 2:  Big goals are better than little ones.

Reality:  It is all about baby steps. 

We often set huge financial goals for the New Year, like “let’s save 25 percent of our paychecks,” and it may be feasible for the first quarter, but things come up during the year that can leave us feeling like we are not meeting our huge financial plan. Medical bills, unforeseen broken appliances, taxes, a big splurge on a vacation, or car repairs; some of these things we can control, but other we cannot. Setting up an automatic deduction of $50 per week from your checking account into savings, and then setting up quarterly reminders to move the money into an investment account, will help you accomplish your goal in a more manageable way. We are more likely to achieve goals that are broken into small, specific steps, and we should celebrate these small steps along the way to meeting our big goal.

Myth #3: It is easy to make one small change.

Reality: Changing anything takes commitment and time.

Small changes, such as reading for 30 minutes a day or exercising four days a week, seem easy, right? On paper, yes, they do; however, a habit forms from a behavior that is repeated for three months straight. Any type of behavioral change, big or small, requires continuous effort until it becomes an automatic part of our routine. And adding something to your routine means subtracting something else. Reading 30 minutes each day may mean watching less television per day or getting 30 minutes less sleep each night. Even the slightest change is difficult.

Myth #4: Starting January 1st, you are a whole new person.

Reality: You are the exact same person you were the previous year.

Yes, we want to change, we want improvement, and we want a fresh start; however, we cannot re-invent ourselves all at once. Change takes time, commitment, and needs to be done in small goals. Start with changing one small thing about yourself over a period of 3-4 months, then try introducing a new change to your life. Eating healthy, cutting out television, saving more money, and exercising daily are all great goals, but trying to do these all at once will be overwhelming and ultimately will lead to failure in the long term.

Myth #5: You don’t have to write your New Year’s resolutions down. Just thinking about them counts.

Reality: Write your goals down, and allow others to hold you accountable.

Make a list of your goals, the reasons and feelings behind these goals, a plan to obtain these goals, and a timeline. Measurable commitments are easier to keep track of rather than lofty commitments, such as “I want to be happier.” If you want to be happier, find measurable ways to do this, such as meeting new friends, learning a new hobby, and understanding what exactly makes you happy. Keep a log of these things, and ask others to help you meet these goals by holding you accountable.

Your brain is the most powerful tool on the planet. Money could never buy or reproduce it. Managing your brain (and your thoughts) is the most important thing you will ever do to create your desired results.”

As a Life Coach. I learned the latest, laser-like tools and cutting-edge techniques to help you manage thoughts, and actions—and thereby results. My life coach model is amazing and will help you see life in a whole new way.” 

–Angela Caprigno

Benefits of Life Coaching with Angela Caprigno!

Mindset matters! It matters more than station in life, education, circle of friends, and the manner in which you were raised. You can shut down the internal voice in your head. You can direct and control your thoughts—making them helpers in your life, not obstacles.

The key to progress and success is appropriate goal setting,

Goals must be committed to writing and reviewed frequently. What gets written, gets done.

Anxiety is natural. It is harmless. It is just a feeling. It can’t hurt you.

Anxiety is an effect, not a cause. Anxiety is not the issue. Our reactions to anxiety are what causes problems.

One must adapt to anxiety rather than flee from it or fight against it. There are ways to control anxiety. These are learned behaviors. You can change your reactions to anxiety without giving up.

True and effective motivation comes from within, not from the environment or even people in your life.

Beliefs are not facts. They need to be studied to determine which beliefs are serving you, and which are not.

Even your thoughts of failure can be turned to benefits and valuable lessons learned.

Are you ready to take the next step?

What We Want Is Based On Our Future:

Often, we look to our past for validation that we are capable of something. This only works if we are looking to accomplish something we’ve already accomplished in the past. Imagine if a baby who was learning to walk refused to try because they had never been successful at walking before. With this mindset, the baby would never learn to walk.

Fortunately, when we were babies, we didn’t look to our past for evidence that we would
be successful or we’d still be crawling. But somewhere, typically in our early adulthood,
we stop focusing on our future and focus instead on our past to help us decide what we’re capable of. We begin choosing thoughts like, “I’ve never done it before, so I’m not sure I can do it” or “I’ve always been bad with money; it’s just who I am” or “I’ve never been able to figure out technology easily.” We limit our future potential based on who we’ve been and what we’ve accomplished so far.

Focusing on the future means clients should recognize limiting beliefs, let them go, and replace them with beliefs that serve their business dreams. It means focusing on the road ahead and getting excited about the future. It means that to create a different future, the client has to create something that doesn’t exist in their past. We must believe something that we don’t currently believe. If we already believed it, we would have created the result we do not yet have.

Self Confidence:

What is Self-Confidence?

Self Confidence is being secure in yourself and your abilities.  Most people lack self-confidence, they don’t think they are good enough, they think everyone is better than them, which can hinder your performance at work and in life.   So how does one become more self-confident?  You have to master the ability to trust yourself, know that you can experience any emotion (including failure) without being harmed, and it’s your overall opinion of yourself.  Let’s take a look at each part to better understand how we can be more self-confident  no matter what others think and do. 

  • Ability to Trust Yourself: This comes down to knowing you will do what you have said you will do.  You will follow through on your plan.  You will take care of yourself.  You will do the  responsible and useful thing for yourself, even when you don’t feel like it.  Let’s not confuse this saying you will do something and then hoping you follow through.  That just leaves room for self-doubt.  The ability to trust yourself starts from consistent follow through on your word to yourself. No one is born with self-confidence; you earn it from yourself by keeping your word and doing what you say at the highest level. 
  • Knowing That You Can Experience Any Emotion: The worst that can ever happen is an emotion.  Truly, emotions are what make life bad when it’s bad.  Most of us spend too much time in self- doubt because we don’t know that we can handle hard that comes our way.  There’s no emotion that will permanently harm us if we feel it all the way through and process it.  When we are willing to experience any emotion and we know it’s the worst that can happen, we will be flooded with self-confidence.  The ability to feel is like our safety net for anything we want to do. It tasks the risk out of everything and gives us a “bring it on” attitude. 
  • Your Opinion of Yourself: How you think of yourself will either pump you up or deplete your self- confidence.  Confidence is a feeling, and so that makes self-confidence a feeling about self.  All our feelings are going to come from our thinking, so the way we think about ourselves will determine whether we feel confident.  If you are self-confident then you will feel good, and capable, and worthy.  You will feel like you can do practically anything.  Now, notice that it doesn’t have to be proven or true – self-confidence  is a feeling that creates a result, and that result doesn’t have to be completed perfectly to create the feeling.

Why Most of Us Don’t Have It:

Most of us aren’t self -confident.  Why would this be? We don’t trust ourselves.  We don’t understand how to manage our minds, so we feel out of control with our feelings and actions.  This leaves us to let ourselves down consistently.  This undermines our ability to trust and stay in integrity.  We’re afraid of feeling our emotions.  We don’t want to feel any negativity, so we hide.  This leaves us scared to do anything that has the risk of failure.

We are always questioning our ability because we have to do it perfectly or we will feel negative emotion. Our opinion of ourselves is very low. We don’t spend a lot of time thinking highly of ourselves. Our brains are programmed to see what’s wrong, so that’s what it’s always looking for. It finds negative thoughts that create negative emotions. This is the opposite of self confidence

Self Confidence is a State of Being:

Thoughts create feelings. Beliefs create states of being. Beliefs are just thoughts we think over and over. Thinking thoughts that create confidence and then believing them is a skill. Most of our beliefs are recycled. We don’t even realize how much self-doubt and anxiety our beliefs produce because we’ve always thought this way. This familiar and efficient thinking is almost comfortable in its predictability.

How do we increase self-confidence?

Increased self-confidence comes from changing your thoughts about yourself. You can increase it by considering the possibility of what you can create in the future. The more certain you are of a possibility, the more confidence you will have moving toward it.

Actions Increase Capability and Capability Increases Confidence:

Progress increases self- confidence. Massive action helps increase it. Do the stuff you are scared to do. Repeat. Make decisions. Honor your decisions. Define opinions. Give up needing others’ approval. Self- confidence comes from needing your own approval. Learn by doing. If you don’t know something, learn by taking action to find out how. Don’t compare yourself 192 to others. Don’t be offended, ever. Let people judge you. Let them be wrong about you. Don’t live in fear of the haters.

In the end, we all die. Our lives are over before we know it. We will have controlled very little. None of it will mean much. We might as well lay it out.

Think Big and Big Things Will Happen!

10 Benefits of Regular Exercise:

  • Exercise is defined as any movement that makes your muscles work and requires your body to burn calories.

  • It Can Make You Feel Happier
    • Exercise regularly can improve your mood and reduce feelings of anxiety and depression
  • It can help with Weight Loss
    • Exercise is crucial to supporting a fast metabolism and burning more calories per day. It also helps you maintain your muscle mass and weight loss.
  • It is good for your Muscles and Bones
    • Physical activity helps you build muscles and strong bones. It may also help prevent osteoporosis.
  • It can increase your energy levels
    • Engaging in regular physical activity can increase your energy levels. This is true even in people with persistent fatigue and those suffering from serious illnesses.
  • It can reduce your risk of chronic disease
    • Daily physical activity is essential to maintaining a healthy weight and reducing the risk of chronic disease.
  • It can help skin health
    • Moderate exercise can provide antioxidant protection and promote blood flow, which can protect your skin and delay signs of aging.
  • It can help your brain health and memory
    • Regular exercise improves blood flow to the brain and helps brain health and memory. Among older adults, it can help protect mental function.
  • It can Help with relaxation and sleep quality
    • Regular physical activity, regardless of whether it is aerobic or a combination of aerobic and resistance training, can help you sleep better and feel more energized during the day.
  • It reduces pain
    • Exercise has favorable effects on the pain that’s associated with various conditions. It can also increase pain tolerance.
  • It can Promote a better sex drive
    • Exercise can help improve sexual desire, function and performance in men and women. It can also help decrease the risk of erectile dysfunction in men.

What are you going start doing today?

Goal Setting for your Business:

Goal Setting for your Business:

Goal Setting is an important method for:

  • Deciding what you want to achieve in your life.
  • Separating what’s important from what’s irrelevant, or a distraction.
  • Motivating yourself.
    • Is your motivation to help people or to make money?  They go hand and hand – it just depends how you look at it.  If you show the value in helping others, they will want the help, and in return you will get paid, so you will make money.
  • Building your self – confidence, based on successful achievement of goals.

Then the way to set goals is to look at your 5-year goal, or someday goals,  which can be overwhelming – so then break it up by years, months, weeks, days and then tasks to accomplish each day.  In order to reach your ultimate goals. 

  • If it pertains to this business if you want to make X number dollars – and you know that you charge each person X number of dollars, then you know how many clients you need to make that much money.
  • Also don’t sell yourself short – Make a reach goal, something that makes you feel uncomfortable.  So that you strive for that- but then if you don’t hit it, you can reset when you will hit it and or you will still reach above your goal that you knew you could hit. 
  • Then you have to believe that you can do this goal.  If you have any doubts, then it will be very hard to reach any goals. 
  1. What is your plan for coaching yourself around the decisions you need to make for your business?
  • What is the one thing you want to focus on this week?