Having a coach will change your life!

Having a coach will change your life!

When you’re going through the hard growth, there is nothing more valuable than going through it with someone who has wisdom, perspective, and very sound judgment, especially if you have a crazy crazy mind like mine.

Every conversation that you have with the coach is a reset to what is possible for you. It’s an hour a week where you focus on believing and making decisions for the person you want to be and the life you want to create. How valuable is that for creating the result you want? Having that hour for two people’s minds to focus on what you want.

Having a coach also means hearing the truth, even when it’s hard. The most powerful thing that you’re ever going to hear is, “You are wrong.” It’s the best news ever. Because if you’re wrong, you have room to grow, room to evolve, and possibility for new results. When you’re right about your shitty situation, there is no solution because you’re right.

A coach keeps you in massive action, and massive action is the only way that you achieve your results.

In a society where we feel so isolated as humans, working with a coach helps you feel less alone in this world.

And then one of my favorite things that I think makes a coach so valuable is the way they see you.

When you want a result that you don’t have yet, you don’t have it because you aren’t that person yet, and you have to grow to become that person. You have to think differently, you have to feel differently, you have to do different things. One of the most painful things we as humans encounter is massive growth, and so one of my favorite things that I think makes a coach so valuable is the way they see you. They believe you can do it, and then possibility sneaks in and opens your mind up.

What is the value of getting where you’re going 100 times faster? Or feeling more alive every day. Of being healthier in your mind and body and spirit? Of having someone believe in you when you don’t?

How valuable is creating the result you want in your life?

This is the value of having a coach.

Reach out today to see How I can help you, Help yourself!

Do Hard Things!

Anxiety

Anxiety

There are three facets of a personality around which the fabric of life drapes. Namely professional, emotional and physical. In our quest for self-mastery, we tend to work mostly on these parts. The true art of life is to balance them all while handling daily challenges that are sure to arise.  If any facet gets imbalanced, you and those surrounding you, will immediately notice it. In fact, the delicate balancing act among the three facets can also be evidenced in your environment.  Let’s understand what creates the imbalance in the first place. What are the primary reasons requiring a need for balance to match our desired growth?

If a random group of hard-working people are asked, ‘How many regularly feel the ‘fear’ of doing something new?’ one will find that such fear is relatively common. Let me put it another way, ‘When it was last time you did something for the first time?’ You might be surprised with the resulting paucity of affirmative responses. Remember, the question is not about what the group has been doing. Instead, the purpose behind asking these questions is to put the person and his or her feelings in an uncomfortable (but temporary) situation. In the end, it is the feelings of the unknown that cloud our thinking. But fortunately for us, uncertainty can also serve as the immediate trigger examining our emotions initially.

We often label these feelings as ‘Anxiety.’ And anxiety is a natural state of mind where a what we feel is what triggers fear in the first place. Some experts argue that it was fear during our human evolution that saved us from extinction at the hands of so many natural enemies.

So, one is left to ask: why anxiety in the present age is looked at as a negative experience?

No doubt, you have heard and read much about ‘stress’. Stress is what one feels when under inordinate pressure—whether physical or emotional, no matter the source. This is also the exactly the same stress you feel in a variety of situations—including when you don’t get what you need in your professional or personal live.  This resulting pressure is inevitably sparked whenever performance is continuously demanded over and above your available hours. It is the pressure that creates a work-life imbalance that seems to be so common in today’s society.

The bottom line is such a situation contributes to the failure to heal your body and mind. The same goes for ‘Anxiety in today’s context. You feel it when modern life inhibits healing our minds and bodies in a natural way due to the stress we experience on a day- to-day basis.

How can one address these feelings?  Is there any way to address fear, anxiety, and stress in a holistic manner? Or put in different words, how can I rid myself of this stress and overcome the accompanying anxiety?

This is often where coaching adds the most value—helping you to identify the early warning signs, and then teaching techniques to correctly identify and resolve the feeling we call anxiety.

So ‘anxiety’ is a product of significant imbalance in your professional, emotional and physical status. If, as I strongly believe, we are products of our own choices, then it your choice alone as to what thoughts and inclinations you follow. Afterall, choice empowers us to make decisions. And the decisions we make on a daily basis form the foundation of who we are and what we do. Remember, it was your choice to get up early in the morning and go out for a jog. Or, it could have been your choice to stay in bed for 30 more minutes. Your choice and is yours alone, and you benefit or are penalized according to how your thoughts guide your choices. Remember, it is well said that, it is the first choice you make in the morning that sets the stage for your entire day.  How you make these choices ultimately is a function of your mindset. If you have a good coach to help you focus on your life’s goals by fine-tuning your mindset correctly, it is highly likely that you will achieve those goals.

The proper balancing of your life is an act of self-justice (your mindset is the springboard for what you choose to do and not to do). Some might question how can you be certain that your choices and decisions are correct? My response is, I am not talking about right or wrong in these instances. Instead, a correct decision is a matter of position and circumstance. Here, the coach provides helpful guidance on what to choose, when to choose, and how to choose. Coaches are here to guide clients to choices that are balanced in nature and to help them further in their personal and individual goals to create a better life.

In conclusion, ‘anxiety’ is created by nature to help us stay alive. Anxiety can be your friend. A good coach will help you manage that anxiety to ensure the proper balance and make your life better in every sense.

Weight Loss for Busy Executives, Entrepreneurs and Professionals!

Weight Loss for Busy Executives, Entrepreneurs and Professionals!
 
Busy lifestyles, deadlines, stress, the desire to be crushing business and create wealth or even just struggling to stay ahead is the reality for many of us.

It’s work. It’s business. And it’s what many accept as just the norm.
In addition, most also accept that they are so busy to invest any time or energy into their own health, fitness and well-being.

Holding on to the belief that “I don’t have time, I’m too busy, And I’m too tired to exercise”.

What happens next? Well, it’s not just next, it’s usually years, if not decades later that many busy professionals reach break point.
Overweight, highly stressed, moody, and not sleeping well.

Sometimes coupled with a health scare of high blood pressure or where the third doctors lead to the final statement. “You have to do something about it now”.
These common beliefs are two-fold.
1.   You don’t know what you don’t know. So if you don’t take the first step to be are aware and resourceful to ‘find’ new ways, better strategies to achieve a goal, then you never start.
2.   It simply means your values are not aligned with your higher objectives. Or one might think it’s important but it’s not high enough no the value list to do anything about.
Let’s dive into a couple of quick solutions, or belief shifts to overcome the most common excuses or beliefs that prevent busy professionals, and executives from losing weight, start implementing an effective health and weight loss program that is sustainable.

That is super essential to many busy people, especially executives, entrepreneurs, and busy professionals that still want to perform at their best., lose weight, get back in control of their health and find better ways of achieving higher levels of health, energy and success.

Most high performers want to be healthy, fit, and focused. Be able to integrate work life balance and have the energy, to be successful. They want to lose weight, get leaner, get fitters, and have the ability to perform optimally given the pressured of work and success.

Now with burnout, meaning deadlines, busy travel schedules, and entertaining, it’s inevitable that when the focus of life is all on business, reaching deadlines, creating wealth, our health becomes a second priority. That is usually because our common beliefs, and especially those that are held by busy professionals is that I don’t have time, I’m too busy, I am too tired, I don’t have enough energy. And this is where we need to reframe or look at a different mindset to now become resourceful, or at least gather new information, a new perspective. And a more effective strategy to achieve specific health, energy, weight loss and mindset objectives that combat and work with all of those common excuses.

The first myth, or limiting belief is “I don’t have time”.

That’s because our belief for most people is that for any exercise or health endeavor to be effective, we need to invest a lot of time and energy into the process. Thinking we need to be at the gym for 60 minutes, five days a week, for it to be effective is myth number one. To combat that, we found that without busy professionals, what’s more powerful, what’s more influential in achieving weight loss, or getting lean or maintaining a good ideal body weight is more about the process of routine.

We found with our busy professionals that their morning routine, whether it be two minutes, 10 minutes, seven minutes, or 15 minutes, if we can create a consistent habit of movement, first thing in the morning, it’s not only going to develop sound routines, it’s also going to help us build a certain level of momentum into achieving and implementing more consistent habits later on in the day.

Those professionals that are implementing a five-minute routine in the morning, are already going to be more energized, they’re already kick starting their metabolism, they’re already getting an adrenaline release, they’re also getting a dopamine hit.

We’re starting an addiction to accomplishment and a sense of achievement. And these morning routines become incredibly powerful, not just in losing weight, but also increasing, creating our mental performance, creating a certain level of leadership, focus, engagement and achievement for other tasks throughout the day.

The second myth is “I’m tired, I don’t have the energy”.

We can look at this in a few different ways. But the most powerful strategy that we have found, resonates and is easy to implement for busy professionals is that we don’t have the energy because we have not mastered the art of managing energy itself. If we look at the factors that can optimize, increase or generate energy, it comes down to three simple factors, number one, movement. And you will be able to test this yourself. If you are feeling tired, lethargic or unfocused, get up, move, follow your morning routine, do some mobility drills, go and talk to people just get out of your chair and move. Whether you are working at home on weekends, and you are losing focus, whether you have been slugging it out for a few hours at work and stuck at your desk, get up and move.

Movement in itself is the key strategy to optimize your energy. And when busy professionals start to connect the dots and understand that to generate more energy or to increase energy is by moving more, we start to build new routines, new habits, new rituals, and we start to identify a new strategy that gives us the outcome that we’re looking for. Being tired is also related to being stressed. When we are stressed.

We switch off, we are disengaged. We look for excuses, our brain stops being resourceful we lose our ability to find solutions. And that plays havoc with our mindset. Because we come from a place of you know, you’ve got your fight and flight reactions. We become reactive to the fight rather than finding that solution to improve our current state, our current level of energy that we are bombarded with on any given day.

To combat the stress is linking back to the first element where we believe more is better, that we need to spend more hours at the desk, we need to spend more hours at work, we need to spend more time to finish the project and get the deadline. When in fact, if we start to focus on quality time and levels of our productivity, you will find that you can oscillate your engagement which will optimize and maximize your mental focus, your productivity and your ability to complete tasks in less time.

In fact, less time at the desk leads to higher levels of productivity and performance, less stress, more energy, less cortisol, greater fat loss. It’s all linked and it’s all related.

It’s not uncommon for our busy professional clients, when they start working with us to lose up to 10 kilograms in their first eight to 12 weeks simply by looking at their nutrition and implementing these effective strategic morning routines. Depending on their initial start point.

And strategies to optimize their energy, their mood, and to facilitate recovery. Nutrition. This is one of the biggest areas that hold people back from achieving their results. Again, usually related to miss information, or the wrong strategy that leads to disappointment and frustration. Thinking that we need to be perfect.

Clients start off thinking that they’ve got to be perfect within nutrition, that I just need to be eating salads, that carbs are bad for us that we have to spend a lot of time and invest time into meal preparation that we have to eat, often smaller meals all the time.

When we get into a state of hunger, and we need to eat, we then panic and we go for whatever is closest and most convenient without even thinking Regardless of where it is, such as Starbucks, it’s pastries, it’s a low quality sandwich — more often than not it’s fast, highly processed food.

One of the key elements of understanding hunger and nutrition is that we must start to focus on eating strategically — that is, eating when we are hungry. Not eating out of habit, routine, or reactively to an emotion trigger like stress, pressure or time of day. That’s the first point We have been programmed to believe that we need to eat at certain times, we need to eat breakfast, we need to eat every two or three hours. Otherwise, our blood sugar is going to drop too low, our metabolism is going to slow down and we’re going to store fat, which is a complete myth.

Through our own experiences and proven methods with clients, that this one strategy alone is critical to long term success, higher levels of wellness, longevity and sustainable lifestyle choice as well as habits.
There are also many sources of research that also support this intervention. If we actually eat less frequently, it leads to:

1. Increased mental and cognitive performance
2. Increased resting metabolic rate
3. Consistent blood sugar levels
4. Reduced insulin and cortisol levels
5. Facilitates cellular recovery.

Clients also experience more energy, greater fat loss, higher levels of productivity. And it also allows us to disassociate our connection, our emotional connection with food.

Secondly, when we focus on meal frequency or eating when we’re hungry, we actually end up eating less calories. This leads us towards more of a calorie deficit more consistently. But it also allows us to have more flexibility with the types of foods that we’re eating. And that is where the magic happens. Because most people are not compliant within nutrition, because they can’t stick to a perfect, healthy or clean diet plan. And this is setting people up to fail. Because there’s no doubt most of us like food.

It’s part of our social culture. It’s about entertaining, spending time with our family, entertaining clients travel, drinking. When you give people the flexibility to work within this kind of threshold, (we call it flow) it leads to much more powerful outcomes and successful sustainable weight loss even for busy professionals.

If you’re looking for new, more effective ways to build an effective energy plan, lose some weight, get your edge back, then reach out and connect with me.

Dealing with Fear!

Dealing with Fear!

When you let fear take hold, you become even more fearful and end up creating a debilitating cycle that works like this:  Fear breeds lack of action.  Lack of actions breeds lack of experience.  Lack of experience breeds ignorance.  And ignorance breads fear.  It makes you afraid to do the very thing that would be beneficial to you.  Taking actions mean you’ll have to move into the unknown and do the untried – and that can be scary.  But if you give in to your fears, you won’t more forward.  You don’t receive the benefit of what you avoid, nor do you gain the valuable experience that will make your life better.  As a result, you remain ignorant about that area of life, and ignorance always breads more fear, making it much harder to push ahead and get things done. 

Harry Truman once said:  “The worst danger we face is the danger of being paralyzed by doubts and fears.  The danger is brought on by those who abandon faith and sneer at hope… by those who spread cynicism and distrust and try to blind us to our great change to do good for all mankind.” 

Somebody said fair is the darkroom where all negatives are developed.  It’s interest paid in advance on a debt you may never owe.  Don’t let fear hold you back by achieving what you always wanted to achieve.  

What is Life Coaching and How Can I Help YOU!

Life Coaches are responsible for guiding people that are confused on what to do into their lives. They support goal-setting, personal growth, and behavior modification of their clients. As a professional Life Coach, I help people to achieve their goals by improving different actions necessary to take control of future plans. And No, I don’t just make of list of steps for you to take. What if I told you there is another way to get to where you want to go? Nothing that you have tried in the past.  Because if what you did in the past worked, you wouldn’t be where you are now.  Right? 

As a life coach I can show you how to use one of the most powerful tools in the world — your mind — to make your dreams come true.  Using “The Model”, I can teach you how to coach yourself so you can change your thoughts, empower your feelings, and take massive action. I can help you discover more of who you really are so you can live the life you’ve always imagined.

Your brain is your most important asset. It is the most important resource. It will give you the highest return on your investments. And yet, how often do we think about the brain as an asset? What can you do to make your brain even more valuable? The more knowledge that you have in your brain, the more valuable it becomes. Invest in your brain.

Changing how you think will unlock goals that you never thought were possible.   Losing the last 10 pounds that, just never can stay off.  Reaching your next promotion at your job.  Even having the best relationship with that someone special in your life that you didn’t think was possible because they never want to change.   

Who doesn’t want that? 

I know I do. 

Setting Boundaries:

  • I am going to talk to you about setting boundaries with your loved ones,  friends even your boss at work.  A boundary is something you create for yourself, and it’s used to achieve life changing results.  It is not a way to control other people.  A boundary is a request you make of someone to change a certain behavior and a consequence of what you will do to self-protect, if they violate it.   We all have been in a relationship that we feel like people just walk all over you,  they don’t respect what bothers you, and since we don’t want to let anyone down or want to express what bothers us, we let them.  And how will that person know unless we tell them.
  • Healthy boundaries promote self-responsibility and empowerment, they lead to closer relationships with others because you are increasing communication as well.
  • The two steps to effectively set an emotional boundary are the request and the consequence. 
  • The request to ask someone to stop doing the thing that bothers you, literally or emotionally. 
  • The consequence is what you tell the person that you will do if they do not comply with your request.   
  • Important thing to remember about setting a boundary is they come from a place of love.  It is not about controlling or manipulating someone else’s behavior.   But be sure to tell them this is how you are taking care of yourself to protect your own feelings and emotions. 
  • Finally, boundaries are the most amazing, wonderful and yet difficult things to implement.  They are tools to bring you closer to the ones you love rather than pushing them away.  It is just another way to keep people from violating important spaces in our lives. 
  • Setting boundaries is about telling the truth to ourselves and to the people in our lives.  Also, remember that following through on our consequences 100% of the time is critical to make this tool effective in your life.  Remember that if you’re willing to have the courage to honor yourself, tell the truth, and ultimately protect yourself, you will see an increase of peace and intimacy in your life.  Who doesn’t want that?