What is Self-Confidence?

Self Confidence is being secure in yourself and your abilities.  Most people lack self-confidence, they don’t think they are good enough, they think everyone is better than them, which can hinder your performance at work and in life.   So how does one become more self-confident?  You have to master the ability to trust yourself, know that you can experience any emotion (including failure) without being harmed, and it’s your overall opinion of yourself.  Let’s take a look at each part to better understand how we can be more self-confident  no matter what others think and do. 

• Ability to Trust Yourself: This comes down to knowing you will do what you have said you will do.  You will follow through on your plan.  You will take care of yourself.  You will do the  responsible and useful thing for yourself, even when you don’t feel like it.  Let’s not confuse this saying you will do something and then hoping you follow through.  That just leaves room for self-doubt.  The ability to trust yourself starts from consistent follow through on your word to yourself. No one is born with self-confidence; you earn it from yourself by keeping your word and doing what you say at the highest level. 
• Knowing That You Can Experience Any Emotion: The worst that can ever happen is an emotion.  Truly, emotions are what make life bad when it’s bad.  Most of us spend too much time in self- doubt because we don’t know that we can handle hard that comes our way.  There’s no emotion that will permanently harm us if we feel it all the way through and process it.  When we are willing to experience any emotion and we know it’s the worst that can happen, we will be flooded with self-confidence.  The ability to feel is like our safety net for anything we want to do. It tasks the risk out of everything and gives us a “bring it on” attitude. 
• Your Opinion of Yourself: How you think of yourself will either pump you up or deplete your self- confidence.  Confidence is a feeling, and so that makes self-confidence a feeling about self.  All our feelings are going to come from our thinking, so the way we think about ourselves will determine whether we feel confident.  If you are self-confident then you will feel good, and capable, and worthy.  You will feel like you can do practically anything.  Now, notice that it doesn’t have to be proven or true – self-confidence  is a feeling that creates a result, and that result doesn’t have to be completed perfectly to create the feeling.

Why Most of Us Don’t Have It:

Most of us aren’t self -confident.  Why would this be? We don’t trust ourselves.  We don’t understand how to manage our minds, so we feel out of control with our feelings and actions.  This leaves us to let ourselves down consistently.  This undermines our ability to trust and stay in integrity.  We’re afraid of feeling our emotions.  We don’t want to feel any negativity, so we hide.  This leaves us scared to do anything that has the risk of failure.

We are always questioning our ability because we have to do it perfectly or we will feel negative emotion. Our opinion of ourselves is very low. We don’t spend a lot of time thinking highly of ourselves. Our brains are programmed to see what’s wrong, so that’s what it’s always looking for. It finds negative thoughts that create negative emotions. This is the opposite of self confidence

Self Confidence is a State of Being:

Thoughts create feelings. Beliefs create states of being. Beliefs are just thoughts we think over and over. Thinking thoughts that create confidence and then believing them is a skill. Most of our beliefs are recycled. We don’t even realize how much self-doubt and anxiety our beliefs produce because we’ve always thought this way. This familiar and efficient thinking is almost comfortable in its predictability.

How do we increase self-confidence?

Increased self-confidence comes from changing your thoughts about yourself. You can increase it by considering the possibility of what you can create in the future. The more certain you are of a possibility, the more confidence you will have moving toward it.

Actions Increase Capability and Capability Increases Confidence:

Progress increases self- confidence. Massive action helps increase it. Do the stuff you are scared to do. Repeat. Make decisions. Honor your decisions. Define opinions. Give up needing others’ approval. Self- confidence comes from needing your own approval. Learn by doing. If you don’t know something, learn by taking action to find out how. Don’t compare yourself 192 to others. Don’t be offended, ever. Let people judge you. Let them be wrong about you. Don’t live in fear of the haters.

In the end, we all die. Our lives are over before we know it. We will have controlled very little. None of it will mean much. We might as well lay it out.

Think Big and Big Things Will Happen!

• Exercise is defined as any movement that makes your muscles work and requires your body to burn calories.

• It Can Make You Feel Happier
  • Exercise regularly can improve your mood and reduce feelings of anxiety and depression
• It can help with Weight Loss
  • Exercise is crucial to supporting a fast metabolism and burning more calories per day. It also helps you maintain your muscle mass and weight loss.
• It is good for your Muscles and Bones
  • Physical activity helps you build muscles and strong bones. It may also help prevent osteoporosis.
• It can increase your energy levels
  • Engaging in regular physical activity can increase your energy levels. This is true even in people with persistent fatigue and those suffering from serious illnesses.
• It can reduce your risk of chronic disease
  • Daily physical activity is essential to maintaining a healthy weight and reducing the risk of chronic disease.
• It can help skin health
  • Moderate exercise can provide antioxidant protection and promote blood flow, which can protect your skin and delay signs of aging.
• It can help your brain health and memory
  • Regular exercise improves blood flow to the brain and helps brain health and memory. Among older adults, it can help protect mental function.
• It can Help with relaxation and sleep quality
  • Regular physical activity, regardless of whether it is aerobic or a combination of aerobic and resistance training, can help you sleep better and feel more energized during the day.
• It reduces pain
  • Exercise has favorable effects on the pain that’s associated with various conditions. It can also increase pain tolerance.
• It can Promote a better sex drive
  • Exercise can help improve sexual desire, function and performance in men and women. It can also help decrease the risk of erectile dysfunction in men.

What are you going start doing today?

Goal Setting for your Business:

Goal Setting is an important method for:

• Deciding what you want to achieve in your life.
• Separating what’s important from what’s irrelevant, or a distraction.
• Motivating yourself.
  • Is your motivation to help people or to make money?  They go hand and hand – it just depends how you look at it.  If you show the value in helping others, they will want the help, and in return you will get paid, so you will make money.
• Building your self – confidence, based on successful achievement of goals.

Then the way to set goals is to look at your 5-year goal, or someday goals,  which can be overwhelming – so then break it up by years, months, weeks, days and then tasks to accomplish each day.  In order to reach your ultimate goals. 

• If it pertains to this business if you want to make X number dollars – and you know that you charge each person X number of dollars, then you know how many clients you need to make that much money.

• Also don’t sell yourself short – Make a reach goal, something that makes you feel uncomfortable.  So that you strive for that- but then if you don’t hit it, you can reset when you will hit it and or you will still reach above your goal that you knew you could hit. 

• Then you have to believe that you can do this goal.  If you have any doubts, then it will be very hard to reach any goals. 

1. What is your plan for coaching yourself around the decisions you need to make for your business?

• What is the one thing you want to focus on this week?