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Dealing with Fear!

Dealing with Fear!

When you let fear take hold, you become even more fearful and end up creating a debilitating cycle that works like this:  Fear breeds lack of action.  Lack of actions breeds lack of experience.  Lack of experience breeds ignorance.  And ignorance breads fear.  It makes you afraid to do the very thing that would be beneficial to you.  Taking actions mean you’ll have to move into the unknown and do the untried – and that can be scary.  But if you give in to your fears, you won’t more forward.  You don’t receive the benefit of what you avoid, nor do you gain the valuable experience that will make your life better.  As a result, you remain ignorant about that area of life, and ignorance always breads more fear, making it much harder to push ahead and get things done. 

Harry Truman once said:  “The worst danger we face is the danger of being paralyzed by doubts and fears.  The danger is brought on by those who abandon faith and sneer at hope… by those who spread cynicism and distrust and try to blind us to our great change to do good for all mankind.” 

Somebody said fair is the darkroom where all negatives are developed.  It’s interest paid in advance on a debt you may never owe.  Don’t let fear hold you back by achieving what you always wanted to achieve.  

What is Life Coaching and How Can I Help YOU!

Life Coaches are responsible for guiding people that are confused on what to do into their lives. They support goal-setting, personal growth, and behavior modification of their clients. As a professional Life Coach, I help people to achieve their goals by improving different actions necessary to take control of future plans. And No, I don’t just make of list of steps for you to take. What if I told you there is another way to get to where you want to go? Nothing that you have tried in the past.  Because if what you did in the past worked, you wouldn’t be where you are now.  Right? 

As a life coach I can show you how to use one of the most powerful tools in the world — your mind — to make your dreams come true.  Using “The Model”, I can teach you how to coach yourself so you can change your thoughts, empower your feelings, and take massive action. I can help you discover more of who you really are so you can live the life you’ve always imagined.

Your brain is your most important asset. It is the most important resource. It will give you the highest return on your investments. And yet, how often do we think about the brain as an asset? What can you do to make your brain even more valuable? The more knowledge that you have in your brain, the more valuable it becomes. Invest in your brain.

Changing how you think will unlock goals that you never thought were possible.   Losing the last 10 pounds that, just never can stay off.  Reaching your next promotion at your job.  Even having the best relationship with that someone special in your life that you didn’t think was possible because they never want to change.   

Who doesn’t want that? 

I know I do. 

New Year’s Resolutions!

New Year’s Resolutions!

2021 has officially begun, and most of us have made resolutions to achieve.  We have lots of things we want to change, and no better time then now, Right? Understanding the reasons behind resolutions is more important than making the actual list, and here is why.

Myth # 1:  You know exactly what you want to change. 

Reality: We should focus on the reasons why we are trying to change.

You think you will be happier when you lose 10 pounds. Why? Is it to fit into your old clothes from when you were younger? Is it to make yourself more attractive for your spouse or future potential partner? Setting a goal without understanding the purpose of the goal makes individuals less likely to accomplish the goal and more likely to feel dissatisfied, even when the goal is met. If the goal is to lose 10 pounds, and the reason is so you can feel more confident in yourself, will this weight loss actually result in more self-confidence? Self-confidence is about loving your body regardless of the size and shape. Maybe losing 10 pounds will help you feel more comfortable with your body; however, are there other aspects in your life that have caused you to lose confidence in yourself?  Maybe a broken relationship, feeling discontent with your job, or a battle with depression can also be contributing to your need for higher self-esteem. Start with what you want to feel, then set goals that help obtain those positive desired feelings or eliminate the negative ones.

Myth # 2:  Big goals are better than little ones.

Reality:  It is all about baby steps. 

We often set huge financial goals for the New Year, like “let’s save 25 percent of our paychecks,” and it may be feasible for the first quarter, but things come up during the year that can leave us feeling like we are not meeting our huge financial plan. Medical bills, unforeseen broken appliances, taxes, a big splurge on a vacation, or car repairs; some of these things we can control, but other we cannot. Setting up an automatic deduction of $50 per week from your checking account into savings, and then setting up quarterly reminders to move the money into an investment account, will help you accomplish your goal in a more manageable way. We are more likely to achieve goals that are broken into small, specific steps, and we should celebrate these small steps along the way to meeting our big goal.

Myth #3: It is easy to make one small change.

Reality: Changing anything takes commitment and time.

Small changes, such as reading for 30 minutes a day or exercising four days a week, seem easy, right? On paper, yes, they do; however, a habit forms from a behavior that is repeated for three months straight. Any type of behavioral change, big or small, requires continuous effort until it becomes an automatic part of our routine. And adding something to your routine means subtracting something else. Reading 30 minutes each day may mean watching less television per day or getting 30 minutes less sleep each night. Even the slightest change is difficult.

Myth #4: Starting January 1st, you are a whole new person.

Reality: You are the exact same person you were the previous year.

Yes, we want to change, we want improvement, and we want a fresh start; however, we cannot re-invent ourselves all at once. Change takes time, commitment, and needs to be done in small goals. Start with changing one small thing about yourself over a period of 3-4 months, then try introducing a new change to your life. Eating healthy, cutting out television, saving more money, and exercising daily are all great goals, but trying to do these all at once will be overwhelming and ultimately will lead to failure in the long term.

Myth #5: You don’t have to write your New Year’s resolutions down. Just thinking about them counts.

Reality: Write your goals down, and allow others to hold you accountable.

Make a list of your goals, the reasons and feelings behind these goals, a plan to obtain these goals, and a timeline. Measurable commitments are easier to keep track of rather than lofty commitments, such as “I want to be happier.” If you want to be happier, find measurable ways to do this, such as meeting new friends, learning a new hobby, and understanding what exactly makes you happy. Keep a log of these things, and ask others to help you meet these goals by holding you accountable.

Your brain is the most powerful tool on the planet. Money could never buy or reproduce it. Managing your brain (and your thoughts) is the most important thing you will ever do to create your desired results.”

As a Life Coach. I learned the latest, laser-like tools and cutting-edge techniques to help you manage thoughts, and actions—and thereby results. My life coach model is amazing and will help you see life in a whole new way.” 

–Angela Caprigno

Benefits of Life Coaching with Angela Caprigno!

Mindset matters! It matters more than station in life, education, circle of friends, and the manner in which you were raised. You can shut down the internal voice in your head. You can direct and control your thoughts—making them helpers in your life, not obstacles.

The key to progress and success is appropriate goal setting,

Goals must be committed to writing and reviewed frequently. What gets written, gets done.

Anxiety is natural. It is harmless. It is just a feeling. It can’t hurt you.

Anxiety is an effect, not a cause. Anxiety is not the issue. Our reactions to anxiety are what causes problems.

One must adapt to anxiety rather than flee from it or fight against it. There are ways to control anxiety. These are learned behaviors. You can change your reactions to anxiety without giving up.

True and effective motivation comes from within, not from the environment or even people in your life.

Beliefs are not facts. They need to be studied to determine which beliefs are serving you, and which are not.

Even your thoughts of failure can be turned to benefits and valuable lessons learned.

Are you ready to take the next step?

What We Want Is Based On Our Future:

Often, we look to our past for validation that we are capable of something. This only works if we are looking to accomplish something we’ve already accomplished in the past. Imagine if a baby who was learning to walk refused to try because they had never been successful at walking before. With this mindset, the baby would never learn to walk.

Fortunately, when we were babies, we didn’t look to our past for evidence that we would
be successful or we’d still be crawling. But somewhere, typically in our early adulthood,
we stop focusing on our future and focus instead on our past to help us decide what we’re capable of. We begin choosing thoughts like, “I’ve never done it before, so I’m not sure I can do it” or “I’ve always been bad with money; it’s just who I am” or “I’ve never been able to figure out technology easily.” We limit our future potential based on who we’ve been and what we’ve accomplished so far.

Focusing on the future means clients should recognize limiting beliefs, let them go, and replace them with beliefs that serve their business dreams. It means focusing on the road ahead and getting excited about the future. It means that to create a different future, the client has to create something that doesn’t exist in their past. We must believe something that we don’t currently believe. If we already believed it, we would have created the result we do not yet have.

Self Confidence:

What is Self-Confidence?

Self Confidence is being secure in yourself and your abilities.  Most people lack self-confidence, they don’t think they are good enough, they think everyone is better than them, which can hinder your performance at work and in life.   So how does one become more self-confident?  You have to master the ability to trust yourself, know that you can experience any emotion (including failure) without being harmed, and it’s your overall opinion of yourself.  Let’s take a look at each part to better understand how we can be more self-confident  no matter what others think and do. 

  • Ability to Trust Yourself: This comes down to knowing you will do what you have said you will do.  You will follow through on your plan.  You will take care of yourself.  You will do the  responsible and useful thing for yourself, even when you don’t feel like it.  Let’s not confuse this saying you will do something and then hoping you follow through.  That just leaves room for self-doubt.  The ability to trust yourself starts from consistent follow through on your word to yourself. No one is born with self-confidence; you earn it from yourself by keeping your word and doing what you say at the highest level. 
  • Knowing That You Can Experience Any Emotion: The worst that can ever happen is an emotion.  Truly, emotions are what make life bad when it’s bad.  Most of us spend too much time in self- doubt because we don’t know that we can handle hard that comes our way.  There’s no emotion that will permanently harm us if we feel it all the way through and process it.  When we are willing to experience any emotion and we know it’s the worst that can happen, we will be flooded with self-confidence.  The ability to feel is like our safety net for anything we want to do. It tasks the risk out of everything and gives us a “bring it on” attitude. 
  • Your Opinion of Yourself: How you think of yourself will either pump you up or deplete your self- confidence.  Confidence is a feeling, and so that makes self-confidence a feeling about self.  All our feelings are going to come from our thinking, so the way we think about ourselves will determine whether we feel confident.  If you are self-confident then you will feel good, and capable, and worthy.  You will feel like you can do practically anything.  Now, notice that it doesn’t have to be proven or true – self-confidence  is a feeling that creates a result, and that result doesn’t have to be completed perfectly to create the feeling.

Why Most of Us Don’t Have It:

Most of us aren’t self -confident.  Why would this be? We don’t trust ourselves.  We don’t understand how to manage our minds, so we feel out of control with our feelings and actions.  This leaves us to let ourselves down consistently.  This undermines our ability to trust and stay in integrity.  We’re afraid of feeling our emotions.  We don’t want to feel any negativity, so we hide.  This leaves us scared to do anything that has the risk of failure.

We are always questioning our ability because we have to do it perfectly or we will feel negative emotion. Our opinion of ourselves is very low. We don’t spend a lot of time thinking highly of ourselves. Our brains are programmed to see what’s wrong, so that’s what it’s always looking for. It finds negative thoughts that create negative emotions. This is the opposite of self confidence

Self Confidence is a State of Being:

Thoughts create feelings. Beliefs create states of being. Beliefs are just thoughts we think over and over. Thinking thoughts that create confidence and then believing them is a skill. Most of our beliefs are recycled. We don’t even realize how much self-doubt and anxiety our beliefs produce because we’ve always thought this way. This familiar and efficient thinking is almost comfortable in its predictability.

How do we increase self-confidence?

Increased self-confidence comes from changing your thoughts about yourself. You can increase it by considering the possibility of what you can create in the future. The more certain you are of a possibility, the more confidence you will have moving toward it.

Actions Increase Capability and Capability Increases Confidence:

Progress increases self- confidence. Massive action helps increase it. Do the stuff you are scared to do. Repeat. Make decisions. Honor your decisions. Define opinions. Give up needing others’ approval. Self- confidence comes from needing your own approval. Learn by doing. If you don’t know something, learn by taking action to find out how. Don’t compare yourself 192 to others. Don’t be offended, ever. Let people judge you. Let them be wrong about you. Don’t live in fear of the haters.

In the end, we all die. Our lives are over before we know it. We will have controlled very little. None of it will mean much. We might as well lay it out.

Think Big and Big Things Will Happen!

10 Benefits of Regular Exercise:

  • Exercise is defined as any movement that makes your muscles work and requires your body to burn calories.

  • It Can Make You Feel Happier
    • Exercise regularly can improve your mood and reduce feelings of anxiety and depression
  • It can help with Weight Loss
    • Exercise is crucial to supporting a fast metabolism and burning more calories per day. It also helps you maintain your muscle mass and weight loss.
  • It is good for your Muscles and Bones
    • Physical activity helps you build muscles and strong bones. It may also help prevent osteoporosis.
  • It can increase your energy levels
    • Engaging in regular physical activity can increase your energy levels. This is true even in people with persistent fatigue and those suffering from serious illnesses.
  • It can reduce your risk of chronic disease
    • Daily physical activity is essential to maintaining a healthy weight and reducing the risk of chronic disease.
  • It can help skin health
    • Moderate exercise can provide antioxidant protection and promote blood flow, which can protect your skin and delay signs of aging.
  • It can help your brain health and memory
    • Regular exercise improves blood flow to the brain and helps brain health and memory. Among older adults, it can help protect mental function.
  • It can Help with relaxation and sleep quality
    • Regular physical activity, regardless of whether it is aerobic or a combination of aerobic and resistance training, can help you sleep better and feel more energized during the day.
  • It reduces pain
    • Exercise has favorable effects on the pain that’s associated with various conditions. It can also increase pain tolerance.
  • It can Promote a better sex drive
    • Exercise can help improve sexual desire, function and performance in men and women. It can also help decrease the risk of erectile dysfunction in men.

What are you going start doing today?

Goal Setting for your Business:

Goal Setting for your Business:

Goal Setting is an important method for:

  • Deciding what you want to achieve in your life.
  • Separating what’s important from what’s irrelevant, or a distraction.
  • Motivating yourself.
    • Is your motivation to help people or to make money?  They go hand and hand – it just depends how you look at it.  If you show the value in helping others, they will want the help, and in return you will get paid, so you will make money.
  • Building your self – confidence, based on successful achievement of goals.

Then the way to set goals is to look at your 5-year goal, or someday goals,  which can be overwhelming – so then break it up by years, months, weeks, days and then tasks to accomplish each day.  In order to reach your ultimate goals. 

  • If it pertains to this business if you want to make X number dollars – and you know that you charge each person X number of dollars, then you know how many clients you need to make that much money.
  • Also don’t sell yourself short – Make a reach goal, something that makes you feel uncomfortable.  So that you strive for that- but then if you don’t hit it, you can reset when you will hit it and or you will still reach above your goal that you knew you could hit. 
  • Then you have to believe that you can do this goal.  If you have any doubts, then it will be very hard to reach any goals. 
  1. What is your plan for coaching yourself around the decisions you need to make for your business?
  • What is the one thing you want to focus on this week?

Setting Boundaries:

  • I am going to talk to you about setting boundaries with your loved ones,  friends even your boss at work.  A boundary is something you create for yourself, and it’s used to achieve life changing results.  It is not a way to control other people.  A boundary is a request you make of someone to change a certain behavior and a consequence of what you will do to self-protect, if they violate it.   We all have been in a relationship that we feel like people just walk all over you,  they don’t respect what bothers you, and since we don’t want to let anyone down or want to express what bothers us, we let them.  And how will that person know unless we tell them.
  • Healthy boundaries promote self-responsibility and empowerment, they lead to closer relationships with others because you are increasing communication as well.
  • The two steps to effectively set an emotional boundary are the request and the consequence. 
  • The request to ask someone to stop doing the thing that bothers you, literally or emotionally. 
  • The consequence is what you tell the person that you will do if they do not comply with your request.   
  • Important thing to remember about setting a boundary is they come from a place of love.  It is not about controlling or manipulating someone else’s behavior.   But be sure to tell them this is how you are taking care of yourself to protect your own feelings and emotions. 
  • Finally, boundaries are the most amazing, wonderful and yet difficult things to implement.  They are tools to bring you closer to the ones you love rather than pushing them away.  It is just another way to keep people from violating important spaces in our lives. 
  • Setting boundaries is about telling the truth to ourselves and to the people in our lives.  Also, remember that following through on our consequences 100% of the time is critical to make this tool effective in your life.  Remember that if you’re willing to have the courage to honor yourself, tell the truth, and ultimately protect yourself, you will see an increase of peace and intimacy in your life.  Who doesn’t want that?

Time Management and How to Get It Done:

  • I am going to teach you about Time Management and How to Get It Done!  Everyone always says if you want something done, give it to a busy person.  Why do you think that is?  Do they have move hours in their day then you do?
  • Everyone has the same 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and 52 weeks in a year.  So why do you think some people get more done then others?  Well I am going to tell you how they do it.  Time can’t be managed, time is what it is, it just sits there.  So, the only way we can manage our time is to manage how we think about it.  
  • First things first, make a list of things that are top priorities to you.  Things like working, family, working out, sleeping even your free time.  Each week starting on Monday’s, plan out your whole week.  This is known as  Monday Hour One.  This is taking a big goal and breaking it down day by day, then hour by hour. While you are making your list of things to do, be sure to create results you want to accomplish.  You will then put everything on your calendar. 
  • Then you will follow your calendar NO MATTER WHAT!  This will help you know what needs to be done and when.  You will know exactly when something will be completed because it is on your calendar.  For all your perfectionist out there, do me a favor and be ok for doing B work.  B work is good enough work to create what you need to create.  If you always are striving for A + work, you will never get anything done. 
  • This type of planning will keep you focused and on course to reach your goals.  Your mind will be at ease because at the end of the day, all you need to do is stick to the plan.  Which is to follow your calendar.  Setting yourself up this way will make you the most money, give you the most freedom and help you to create the legacy you want.  Who doesn’t want that! I know I do!

Money – Part 1

Today I am going to talk about Money!  What do you believe about Money? 

  • Money is abundant, Money is easy, Money is fun, I love money.

Or to think that…

  • Money is hard, You have to work hard for money, I never have enough money, Money isn’t important.

The way you think about money is what will determine how much you have. 

Questions you should ask yourself?  Does money solve all problems? Can money buy you time, and there is nothing more valuable than time? Can money buy freedom? Does money make life easier?

Most people believe they’re limited in how they can earn money, that it’s only earned over time and by effort, but the real way to create wealth is by creating value.  Now, if you believe that money comes from time and effort, you’re going to be sitting there with your hand out, wanting to get paid. You’ll want to get paid the most you can for the least amount of time and effort, but that will backfire.

People who overdeliver always get it back ten times over, not only in their self-esteem and in their self- confidence, but in their willingness to receive. When you’ve given such quality to the world, you’re open to receiving all the gifts, all the abundance the world has.

When you’re constantly living from a place of scarcity, wanting to make sure you get paid for every single thing you do, you stop creating value.

Money is actually very easy when you clean up your beliefs about it. When you allow yourself to imagine breaking out of the time and effort money prison, you’ll open yourself up to so much more possibility.

Here’s the deal. Most of us think we get paid for our time, which has
a limit, and there’s a maximum amount we can make based on our education. What is the number you have in your mind? $100k? $500k? Most people think that’s the maximum they can make in a year, and they hope to find someone who will pay them that much. If you have beliefs like these, you’ll get stuck in a rut.

Maybe there’s not a limited amount of money you can make. Maybe you can create your own wealth by creating your own value and offering it to the world. That doesn’t mean you have to come up with the next iPhone, and that doesn’t mean you need a talk show, and it doesn’t mean that you have to be the best investor in the world. All it means is that you’re going to be the best version of yourself you can possibly be and give as much service to the world as you can possibly give for the sake of how amazing you’ll feel. You not only have to create the value; you also have to then be open to receiving.

You have to trust your own guidance to take you to the place where you need to be. You have to stop buffering and start to clean up your mind
and not respond to negative emotion to be able to access what you have that’s of value. Every single one of us has the ability to create money.

Start with a little bit of awareness by thinking about how much money you have right now. Why do you have that amount?

Now think about that in terms of your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions. What are your feelings about how you’ve acquired your money? What’s your opinion about your money right now? Are your current thoughts likely to create more money?

That’s all for now.. Part 2 will be Next week – Your thoughts about making more money.